This article is written for parents, but will also be useful for teenagers. It will better help them understand their parents and as a result, avoid possible conflicts.
In adolescence, children begin to assess the lives of their parents. Teenagers, especially girls, discuss behavior, actions, the appearance of moms and dads, teachers, and acquaintances. And they are constantly compared. At some point, the result of this comparison will affect your relationship with your son or daughter. It can be both pleasant and unpleasant for you. So, if you do not want to hit in the dirt with your face, start preparing for this assessment as early as possible.
The main thing in your relationship with your child is mutual understanding. To establish it, you must take the initiative and not to conceal offenses. You should not, as to go on about the momentary desires of the child, and always oppose them. But if you can not or do not consider it necessary to fulfill the desire of your son or daughter, you must explain why. And in general, talk more with your children, talk about your work, discuss with them their affairs, toy or educational, know their interests and concerns, friends, and teachers.
Maintain children’s confidence in themselves, in their abilities, and in the fact that even with certain shortcomings (which everyone has) they have their own undeniable strengths.
In the educational process, confrontation, a struggle between the teacher and the pupil, the confrontation of forces and positions are unacceptable. Only cooperation, patience and interested participation of the tutor in the destiny of the pupil give positive results.
Surprise – will be remembered! The one who makes an unexpected and strong impression becomes interesting and authoritative. What attracts a child to an adult? Strength – but not violence. Knowledge – remember, for example, the eternal “why?” in babies. What is their share, did you manage to answer clearly and fully? Mind – it is in adolescence when you are able to evaluate it. Skills – daddy knows how to ski, fix the TV, drive a car.
Do you want your child to be strong and healthy? Then learn for yourself and teach him the basics of knowledge about your body, how to maintain and promote health. This does not mean that you have to learn the arsenal of the doctor and the prescription of various drugs. Of course, physical and any other exercise should be in accordance with the age capabilities of the child.